Welcome to another episode of Millionaires R Made
Another episode of "Millionaires Are Made," the show that teaches you tiny little bits to help improve you on your life's journey. Today's episode is going to be a fun one and a tough one for me. I just landed in St. Thomas; we are currently shooting from Capitol Air's gate in the St. Thomas airport. We've got three awesome guests going on with us today.
And I did just read an article or a little quote that I wanted to share with you all. It's kind of the entire purpose of this show. As I traveled and met people and learned that they didn't quite have all the same knowledge as other people, I decided to start "Millionaires Are Made." I want multiple people from different backgrounds sharing tiny bits of info that hopefully you can take something, learn, and grow in your journey today. So, this is the quote – thank you, Nicole, for sharing it – "Every person you meet knows something you don't. There is something to be learned from everyone." And that is literally the motto we have.
We don't have high-paid billionaire guests on this show. We have everyday people that are doing things in specific industries or lives that have something to share. And today, hopefully, we can improve your mental health by teaching how to share your feelings a little better.
So, my tip for sharing feelings and improving mental health is actually another quote, another tip from an earlier episode. One of my best pals, his name is Alex Graph – shout out – if you need any film or acting, he's the guy to talk to. But his tip is, "Vulnerability is the secret to connection." So, my tip to improve your mental health by sharing your feelings is to be vulnerable. A lot easier said than done, but there's ways to work on it. You can check out different sites online or use a therapist, but being real, bro, is the number one way to connect authentically with others. Hopefully, that helps you out a little bit.
We're going to start with our first guest here. Her name is Bonnie. She's a women's empowerment coach, and she's got some awesome tips for us as well. Hey, Bonnie, how are you doing?
Hey, Austin, I'm doing great. Thank you for having me on here, and welcome, everybody. I'm glad to share my tips with everybody.
All right. Well, let's start off with our first question. Who are you?
Okay. I'm Bonnie Hardy. I am a women's empowerment coach based in Central Florida. I empower midlife women to say "bon voyage" to the shackles and mind so they can live their best life and reclaim their joy and passion. I am also a vision board expert, so I help people to create a vision for the future so they can soar in 2024.
That's awesome. How many vision boards have you helped with this year?
Well, for this year, it's only like 10 days into the year. I've only helped with a few, but last year, I helped with a whole ton. So, we're going to do a whole lot of vision boards in-person and in group settings and online a whole lot this year.
Do you do vision boards all year long or just towards the end of the year or beginning of the year?
You can do a vision board whenever you want. Some people do vision boards every six months, and some people do it every three months. Some people have a vision right now and they'll do it for the rest of the year because your priorities change, and everything changes. But I could work do a vision board at any time with anybody.
Awesome. I love it. All right, Bonnie, I've got a super important question for you. If I wanted to improve my mental health by sharing my feelings with others, what tiny piece of advice would you give me?
My tiny piece of advice is for you to be authentic. Authentic.
Can you explain that a little bit?
Yes. You need to be authentic with your feelings, with yourself, and with others. I actually just had a conversation with somebody this morning. They got a little anxious and stuff, and I was like, "Okay, go off to the side, be by yourself, let people know that you need just a few minutes to yourself. Have a code word with other people, your bosses, and say, 'I just need to go off, be by myself for two minutes,' and it's okay." And I show people how to do meditation, deep breathing. I said, "Take five deep breaths in through the nose, hold it for a few seconds, and out through the mouth. Do that, and then I can visibly see her within like 30 seconds relaxing totally, and she was okay and went back to work, and everything's fine since then."
Okay. So, that's not just with anger; that's with anxiety and other emotions as well?
Yes, with anything. If you get anxiety, if you're getting depressed, or if you have anger issues or anything like that, or you just get overwhelmed sometimes, you get too stimulated being out in public with so many things going on, you get overwhelmed, you get anxious. Take a breath. Just take a breath, and you're going to be okay.
Very cool. And that'll help you stay authentic, huh?
Yes.
Well, let me ask you this, Bonnie. Where on your life journey did you learn that piece of advice?
I learned it in the School of Hard Knocks myself. I am, like, my best client, to be honest with you, Austin. I am 59 years old – 59 years old, have anxiety, depression, PTSD from various things, homelessness, and people bullying me and stuff like that. So, I've learned to try to be authentic with myself and be honest with my feelings so that stuff doesn't get too crazy. I've learned to just think about my feelings and stuff like that.
Okay. So, sharing your feelings, take a deep breath, and then it makes you more authentic in order to express yourself with others.
Great. Perfect. Yes.
Well, Bonnie, that's an awesome piece of advice. Thank you so much. We're going to move on to our next guest now, and we'll bring you back out in the round robin.
All right.
All right. Next up, we've got our Richard here – Richard Kaufman, The Comeback Coach.
Oh, sorry. Let me ask you, Richard, who are you?
I am The Comeback Coach. I am a guy that went from dope dealer to hope dealer. I am a top 0.5% podcast globally ranked podcast, two-time best-selling author, and a ninth-grade dropout that has a podcast with over 1.6 million downloads with some of the greatest guests in history, including John Lee Dumas and other people like that. But other than that, I'm just a guy that knows a guy. I'm a guy that knows a guy. Do we have a link for his podcast? It's already out there? Perfect. Cool. Check out that link down below if you're interested in Richard's amazing podcast. And then, hey, Richard, if I got a little question for you here. If I wanted to improve my mental health by sharing my feelings, what piece of advice would you
give me?
I would give you a piece of advice to live your life based on the six P's. That's prayer, patience, persistence, pursuit, purpose, and passion.
I like that. So, explain the six P's a little bit.
So, you can't just do one or two of them; you have to do all six of them. So, the first one is prayer, meaning you have to have a higher power, and you have to be grateful. Patience is next, so you have to have patience and have faith that things are going to get better, even when you don't see it. Persistence means that even when things get tough, you've got to keep on going.
Pursuit means that you have to chase your dreams. Purpose means you've got to find your purpose, and you've got to be living in your purpose every single day. And passion means you have to be passionate about what you're doing every single day.
And then, if you're doing all six of those, then you're going to improve your mental health. If you're just doing one or two, you're not going to improve your mental health.
Got you. So, it's not just one magic pill; it's a combination of things.
Correct.
All right. So, those six P's, if you guys want to take a screenshot of that, feel free to do so. Those six P's – prayer, patience, persistence, pursuit, purpose, and passion – that's how you can improve your mental health by sharing your feelings.
So, Richard, I got another question for you. Where on your life journey did you learn those six P's?
I learned those six P's on my life journey from not having mental health myself, from not having mental health myself and living a life that wasn't really great, and I was doing a lot of bad things. I was selling dope, I was doing things that I shouldn't have been doing, and then one day, I hit a wall. I hit a wall. I was like, "Man, this life is not for me," and I started chasing the right things in life.
And so, one day, I heard somebody on a podcast talk about these six P's. And I was like, "You know what? That makes a lot of sense," and so I started doing all six of those, and my life changed. And so now, every single day, I wake up and I do all six of those every single day, and that's how my life changed. And so, if you're doing all six of those, then your life will change. I guarantee it.
That's awesome. I love it. Well, Richard, thank you so much for that piece of advice. We're going to move on to our next guest, and we'll bring you back out in a little bit.
All right.
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All right. Next up, we've got our friend Dr. Tan here, The Minimalist. Dr. Tan, how you doing?
Good. Good, Austin. Thanks for having me.
Absolutely. Absolutely. Well, let me ask you, Dr. Tan. If I wanted to improve my mental health by sharing my feelings with others, what piece of advice would you give me?
Well, Austin, my piece of advice would be to simplify your life, declutter, and create more space for what truly matters.
Okay. So, simplify your life. What does that mean?
Well, that means getting rid of all the excess stuff in your life, whether it be physical possessions, relationships, commitments, anything that's not adding value to your life. It's about simplifying, decluttering, and creating space for what truly matters to you.
Okay. So, decluttering not just physically but also mentally and emotionally?
Absolutely. It's a holistic approach. So, it's not just about getting rid of physical possessions, but also decluttering your schedule, your commitments, your relationships, and really creating that space to focus on what truly matters to you.
Got it. And how does that improve your mental health?
Well, it allows you to focus on the things that truly bring you joy, fulfillment, and purpose. When you have all that excess stuff, it can be overwhelming. It can create stress and anxiety. But when you simplify and declutter, you create that space to really focus on what matters most to you.
Very cool. And where on your life journey did you learn this piece of advice?
Well, I learned this piece of advice through my own personal journey. I used to live a very cluttered and overwhelmed life, always chasing more, accumulating more, and it never brought me true happiness. It was actually the opposite. So, I decided to make a change. I started simplifying my life, decluttering, and really focusing on what truly matters. And through that process, I found a lot more joy, fulfillment, and purpose in my life.
That's awesome. I love it. Well, Dr. Tan, thank you so much for that piece of advice. We're going to bring all the guests back out now, and we're going to do a little round-robin. So, we've got Bonnie, Richard, and Dr. Tan. Come on back out. All right, here we go. All right, here's a big round of applause for our three awesome guests today. We've got Bonnie, Richard, and Dr. Tan. Thank you all so much for being here.
All right. Well, let me ask you this. If each of you could share one final piece of advice on how to improve your mental health by sharing your feelings with others, what would it be?
Okay, let's start with Bonnie.
One final piece of advice would be to practice gratitude every day.
Okay. Richard, how about you?
One final piece of advice would be to surround yourself with positive people, and they will help elevate you to that next level.
All right. And Dr. Tan, how about you?
One final piece of advice would be to embrace vulnerability, be open and honest with yourself and others, and that's where true connection happens.
I love it. Well, thank you all so much for being here. This has been an awesome episode of "Millionaires Are Made." We've got Bonnie, Richard, and Dr. Tan, three awesome guests. Thank you all so much for being here. Thank you all for watching. We'll see you on the next episode. Take care.